This is so interesting. I heard somewhere the term “like-hearted” community, for exactly the reasons you say. We need our differences, and we to be able to get along. We don’t need to agree on everything. But like anyone who’s been in relationship with a narcissist knows, if we aren’t starting from a foundation of mutual respect (like-hearted), it can’t go anywhere happy.
As a fantasy writer, I’ve played with ideas of synarchy—all working/contributing for the benefit of all—like the ‘group of sovereigns’ idea, without coersion. One version came out as a village-centric collaborative gift-culture with semi-communal aspects, and a high value on consent. (What? You mean the story tension isn’t from a controlling patriarchy?) (Yes! It’s fantasy! If you’re going to imagine a new world, make it the kind you’d like to live in. We need examples!)
May there be many more ‘real world’ experimentations with creating healthy community!
